Somewhere to BEGIN….

Credit: Tumblr/ilovechudavidarchie

A friend I admire sent me a link to an interesting article in the Deseret News about some famous LDS athletes who have had to grapple with the decision of whether or not to serve a mission.

The writer, former NBA star Travis Hansen, served his mission in Chile, and wrote the story to share his view on how those two years can provide “a master’s degree in experiences.” The examples of qualities he feels missionaries can develop during that time range from leadership, diplomacy, humility, gratitude and communication to learning to handle criticism and conquering fear.

I know what you’re thinking. “How could David possibly become more humble, grateful or diplomatic?”

But the fact is, David’s been pretty open in interviews about wanting to gain maturity and assertiveness, along with the confidence to be “daring” (his word) with his music. And he told us in his “A Thought” vlog that he couldn’t wait to bring back the person he’ll become in 2014. So, as well as fulfilling his spiritual needs, David clearly hopes to “take some time now … it’s time for me to find out who I am.”

And I have no doubt he’ll do that… and more… ’cause that’s what David does … more. He always seems to work even harder, longer, and with more commitment than you imagined he could.

Credit: @PaulaFOD

He also continues to defy our expectations of him. Mine, anyway. And I’d foolishly thought I didn’t have those. The night of his Announcement taught me different. Turns out, I’d been seeing what I’d wanted to see… a David soaring from a successful Christmas tour ready to write new music, find his own sound and take the recording industry by storm…  um, nope.

Without realizing it, I’d mapped out my ideal version of his future. I think I’ve learned a painful lesson though. At least I hope so.

My motto now? Let it be. Let him be. And I feel more peaceful about things by not dwelling on the particulars of what he may be doing* or even what he’ll do when he gets back. This is his time, his life, and after much angst (mostly separation anxiety I guess), I’ve come to realize I can only say, “Via con Dios, David.” Go with God. Wherever He may lead you.

Yes, I admit I pray for him to stay safe and to be happy but I trust he’s in good Hands. I have no doubt he’ll make the absolute most from this experience and that he’ll remain focused on what he can give, not what he can get — because that’s what David’s always done — whether it’s on Idol, on tour, or in his neighbourhood. But I can’t focus on his present beyond that, only my own. And I can’t focus on the future either.

I sincerely hope that David emerges from these two years an even stronger, more fortified, grounded, rebooted version of his already amazing self, ready to make new music. But the truth is, anything could happen in two years, to any of us. And as much as David was sincere when he held up that “I’ll Be Back #DA2014” sign — even he doesn’t know where his head and heart will be in 2014.

~ Mother Teresa

Of course I want him to pick up where he left off and start writing, recording and performing again but I don’t want to weigh him down — or myself, for that matter — with expectations for what will happen in 2014. Call it denial or self-preservation but it feels right to enjoy the here and now, and leave the rest up to someone else.

So while I believe David’s doing exactly what he needs to be doing and is right where he’s meant to be — and that he’s certainly earning that master’s degree in experiences … heck, a PhD, knowing David — I can only focus on the riches he’s left us with today (and come Aug. 7th 🙂 ).

And what riches they are … I find myself bursting with gratitude for the four years of beautiful music — and bunny suits — he’s given us so far and all that he worked so hard to finish for us before he left.

I’ll never stop supporting him, that I do know. His voice is pure love, I know that too.


So how about you guys? Where are you at on this crazy elevator ride we’re on?

*But if ninja vids surface from his performance this weekend, all bets are off. 🙂

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54 Responses to Somewhere to BEGIN….

  1. TOfan says:

    Bringing this over from JR at the end of the last thread (no, did not listen! *bites hand*):

  2. jackryan4da says:

    Pure love – from his intent to his execution, that’s what David delivers. Pretty much similar to your writing TOfan. Be it serious or irreverently hilarious, you wear your love for David on your sleeve 🙂

    “I see your true colors, shining through… And that’s why I love you!”

  3. peppertara says:

    Aw TOfan, this is so beautifully written! Loved reading every word you expressed, honestly.
    I agree, I think it is good to just focus on the here and now and enjoy all the wonderful gifts David created for his fans. No one can predict what 2014 will bring but I can’t help but feel that David will be back in to music. For David to give up music would be something akin to him giving up food, lol. As long as he has a voice I think he will sing, don’t know in what capacity but it seems that it is written (or engraved) in the heavens! Yes, he’ll return with his PhD in experiences I’m sure and we’ll be here because as you said “His music is love” and so it seems, is he.
    Lovely, lovely post TOfan.
    Love JR’s promo vid for BOTW & EH, beautiful! I still gasp at hearing that incredible long and wonderful note in BOTW, good grief David. 🙂

  4. jackryan4da says:

    He will be back and will be back to music. He made a promise while he was here in Manila to us in a group and individually to Naree and myself. And even w/o that promise, music is air to him so it would be unthinkable for him not to do something that makes him come alive.

  5. JONERZ says:

    Great post Deb and a sobering reality check. I think I need to go and eat some chocolate 😉

    • bleubird19 says:

      I was doing so well avoiding chocolate today until you mentioned it. Good thing I don’t have any in the house … oh wait, I do have some chocolate chips ………..

  6. Very nice Tofan!! It’s wonderful to experience how far fans have come in Acceptance since David’s big announcement!! I am learning on this journey. My favorite saying of David’s was one you quoted “I can’t wait to bring back the person I become while I’m gone” Jennifer used that quote on the calendar DavidArchuleta! for July. Loving all the gifts David has left us!! Yes, David will definitely learn a lot while he is gone and I’m hoping to myself as well. So thankful that you are keeping the Fan Site going. Supporting each other has made this journey more rewarding.

  7. MunkFOD says:

    Wish I could give you a big HUG!!! Loving the present! Looking forward to the future! In a “Good Place” for sure! thank you so much!

  8. jackryan4da says:

    You know I cannot resist — PRIDE PROMO VID

  9. sunny says:

    TOfan: very well written. I think a lot of us had put our expectations on David and as much as I miss him, I feel nothing but happiness for him for doing what he needed to do. It is his life not mine or ours to live as he feels the need to. For someone so young, David is one of the bravest and most amazing human beings!! He follows the road less traveled instead of what is popular!!

    • Kizzi says:

      Ditto x 1Million Sunny.

      BTW “Bridge Over Troubled Waters”snippet is simply sublime. Wowza!

      TOfan, here is a hug which I am pretty sure is a ((((((GROUP HUG))))))

      I wanna see the SAz this year!!!! Cannot go 20+ more months without a SAz fan convo! *sniff, sniff*

      Love ya SAz’s!!! 😀

    • refnaf says:

      (((((kizzi))))))))))))) Must make plans!

  10. archugeezer says:

    Deb, you probably already know how I feel about this piece. For all the fun I have had (still do) with David the musician and entertainer, I am in the place you describe when it comes to David the person.

    “Let it be. Let him be.” Exactly this.

    My 2014 expectations for David are more like heartfelt wishes. If he finds his way back to music, I will be there. If he doesn’t, he will always have my respect and gratitude for what I have experienced because of him.

    • TOfan says:

      beautifully put, Geez… and thanks again for sending me that article, as you can see, it forced me to take a good hard look at a few things <333 … "heartfelt wishes," I like that!

  11. abanana77 says:

    Aww Deb, love this post <3333 Beautifully written and I totally agree 🙂

  12. dangitdavid says:

    Deb!!! You made me cry 😦 What a beautiful post and as Jonerz said, a realty check!! I also agree with every word you said….and this really hit home…”Without realizing it, I’d mapped out my ideal version of his future”. I think we may have all done this without realizing that this young man may have a totally different vision of what he wants out of life!! I will be a life long supporter of David’s in anything he chooses to do with his life and as much as I want it to be in music, he will make his mark in this world and we will all be proud of him 🙂 I think we could all use a huge group hug…..

  13. bleubird19 says:

    Deb, What you said in your blog was so perfectly written. I felt exactly the same & I am trying hard to “Let It Be”. Sometimes that’s a struggle not only with David but with my own sons. I need to trust the Archuleta and I’m quite certain God will look over him. I definitely want in on that group hug. {{hug}} ♥

  14. marlie7 says:

    TOfan: “Without realizing it, I’d mapped out my ideal version of his future. I think I’ve learned a painful lesson though. At least I hope so. My motto now? Let it be. Let him be. And I feel more peaceful about things by not dwelling on the particulars of what he may be doing* or even what he’ll do when he gets back. This is his time, his life, and after much angst (mostly separation anxiety I guess), I’ve come to realize I can only say, “Via con Dios, David.” Go with God. Wherever He may lead you.”

    This is where I was, too. And I was on the one hand stunned when he made his announcement and then….not. Now,I’m just happy that he is happy – that he is following his hearts desire – and I’ll support whatever he does – how can we not when he gives so much love back to us? I’m riding the high from Forevermore and looking forward with great anticipation to BEGIN.

    Thanks for reminding me to stick to my “Let it be” committment.

    • TOfan says:

      marlie!!!!!!! was just thinking back today of the MKOC tour (incl. waiting in line in the cold at Irving, lol) and how awesome it all was *sigh* … I think I’ll need reminding too from time to time! 😉

      • jackryan4da says:

        I hope that someday soon I get to meet the snowangelz peeps 🙂 I also hope that when David comes back, he will have a concert tour in Canada going!

        My daughter’s BF is now a Canadian. They plan to settle there in 2 years time. Perfect excuse to watch a concert DA w/ snowanglez while visiting my unica hija 🙂

      • TOfan says:

        Absolutely, JR!!!! Can’t wait to meet you and to see you at a D. concert here would be icing on the cake!!! 🙂

      • marlie7 says:

        I think we go all the way back to Williamsville! Waiting in the cold there, too! 🙂

    • refnaf says:

      Marlie!!!!! Waves and (((hugs)))

    • refnaf says:

      JR>> eeeeeeeeeeeee a Canada tour with you joining the Snowangelz=perfection
      We will meet some day……

  15. jackryan4da says:

    David leaving temporarily might just be one the best things that happened to most of us, even if we do not realize it yet. For David, it definitely is the nourishment his soul craves. Professionally, it may be the reboot that his career sorely needs.

    Apart from the fear and the pang of the void that his absence produced and will still create in the remaining months, it may be a great opportunity to regroup in our personal circumstances. Have taken that chance to grow further, as David is doing right now. I think David would like that and would be happy to learn of our individual growth.

    Meanwhile, he has done his best to not make that void unbearable. Heck, at times it even feels like “What void?!” LOL

    100% with you TOfan. “Let it be. Let him be.” Now and in the years to come.

    • That’s the way I look at it JR. It has given me time to look at my own life more. I’m still as hooked daily on checking the sites. I appreciate all you do to keep us up to date and Archive everything. I do appreciate Snowangelz too for her contribution of Humor and now a more serious accepting Article.
      I did go to the Article too Tofan and re read your article. Thanks again!!

  16. Bychance says:

    TOfan….so grateful you put into words what I have been thinking. I completely agree with you, and others……is it too late to get in on the hug???

    Let it be. Let him be who he is. He (and we) will be better for it. I feel confidant he will come home with that phd In life experience that will enrich him and his music forever. Interestingly, much of the purpose of a mission is about developing those qualities (mentioned at the beginning of the post), getting outside of one’s self, serving in the community, and building a solid spiritual foundation….at a time in life when some young people are unsure of their future plans and need some ‘growing up’ time before making important life decisions. David is following his heart as he has always done. We should all be so good at doing that!

    Whether he comes back to music depends in some part on us fans…….if we are still here to support him he will have a place to BEGIN again. I can’t imagine him not doing music if he has the support for it. And I’m pretty sure he will come back even better than he left us. In the meantime, I hope I can be better, too…..all the while enjoying his wonderful gifts. I know I will always be a supporter of this amazing young man and consider it a blessing to be a fan. Thank you, David Archuleta!!!!! ……..and thank you TOfan for your beautiful words.

  17. refnaf says:

    “My motto now? Let it be. Let him be. And I feel more peaceful about things by not dwelling on the particulars of what he may be doing* or even what he’ll do when he gets back. This is his time, his life, and after much angst (mostly separation anxiety I guess), I’ve come to realize I can only say, “Via con Dios, David.” Go with God. Wherever He may lead you.”

    TOfan this is spoken perfectly….. I have finally gotten to this place and it is a good place to be….Thank you for always giving words to what I am thinking and feeling ((((TOfan)))
    I do get a little giddy at thinking about David “bringing back the person I become while I’m gone” but I am trying hard to not just apply that to what he may do musically…and accept that where ever life takes him > he has been such a blessing for the last 4+ years. I adore him *sniff*

    BTW I am in snippet heaven…. I have always done snippets, but these are soooo awesome cause we know the songs and the lyrics that are coming before and after and can just IMAGINE eeeeeee
    Now joining the beautiful group hug up thread

  18. refnaf says:

    JR I agree this could be a career boost in the end…. if David comes back the person he wants to be that can only be good….and I am happy and content to wait and go with the flow, watching it all enfold however it is meant to>David is in good Hands

  19. We Are Beautiful!! David said so!! Squeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!

  20. emmegirl14 says:

    tofan, you are beautiful (wordoftheday). Your sentiments come from the place of deepest respect and caring. You can’t do better than that.

    I have settled my ups/downs, my happys/sads….and found that let it be place. Feels good. I expect I will have the occasional setback, but that’s okay too.

    It is a Beautiful day! Stunningly Beautiful, in fact. So Beautiful I can’t take it.

  21. emmegirl14 says:

    tofan, friendly advice – do not listen to BEGIN. for the first time while driving a motor vehicle or operating heavy equipment.

  22. Anonymous says:

    Bravo TOfan – you made it to a more peaceful personal place/space re DA

    I LIKE that “a Masters/Ph D of experience”

  23. SandyBeaches says:

    TOfan…bravo and a standing ovation for you.

    This is a beautiful article including the pictures. Somehow it gives some peacefulness that we always appreciate.

    The quote by Mother Teresa ending with begin. gives us another look and usage of the word! How does that happen that he can cause such a stir with a single word? Now ‘beautiful’ has become the word of conversation in addition.

    I am going to chose to live the next several months with the thought that he will be returning to music and the music will allow his fans to see him once again in concert. I would love a little of that time to be watching him with the MOTABS as a guest performer. Just wanting to put that out into the universe! But until then the new album will be wonderful!


  24. Thanks Deb for this lovely piece. Excuse me while I shovel myself up off the floor. I really try to be happy that David’s happy, but in addition to missing him, I miss all the fun stuff with you guys. But hey, BEGIN. is coming soon and there will be lots to talk about. Can you imagine the excitement as the emergence date draws near?? Spazz city. Gotta love the whole package. Thanks for that hug, oh yeah.

  25. jackryan4da says:

    a LOVELY piece deserves a BEAUTIFUL snippet 😉

  26. peppertara says:

    Beautiful snippets galore! My oh my, just listened to the snippet of Broken. Oh David, pure heart. Sounds like a beautiful song. Cannot wait to hear the whole thing. A few seconds and you feel so much through that voice.
    (not wanting to leave any spoilers for the non-listeners)! Just a tiny spazz or two, haha.
    Love that album title, David has a knack for choosing them. 🙂

    • TOfan says:

      spazz away, pepp, lol … Broken is the song I’ve been looking forward to the most… THIS ONE IS REALLY KILLING MEEEEEEEEEE NOT TO LISTEN TOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

      …sorry, just had to get that out there 🙂

      • Kizzi says:

        TOfan, I can kinda understand your wanting to wait. And it’s not much longer. This “Broken” snippet has some vocal elements like “Elevator.” Woo Hoo!!

        And you are waiting for what amounts to the Archu-Christmas morning…the tree is decorated, lights flashing their beautiful auras, presents under the tree wrapped with sparkling ribbons and colorful paper.

        If “anticipation is greater than realization,” then you are already in alt beyond us snippet realizers. I’m cheering you on from the snippet listener bleachers. GO TOfan! GO!

  27. peppertara says:

    You have strength of a lion TOfan, I commend you, lol. You really do have something special to look forward too, heck we all do!

  28. jackryan4da says:

    TOfan, Pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeasssssssssssssse listen to BROKEN. I just want to see you spazz, then be slayed, then be rendered useless for some period of time – speaking from experience 😉

    Promo Vid #9 – BROKEN

  29. SandyBeaches says:

    TOfan, he used his special vocal talents that Master Class Lady will be writing about! The 19 seconds are all David! Going easy on the excitement for you…Congrats on the staying power…


  30. jackryan4da says:

    And to square away my BEGIN.vid obsession here is the 10-clip promo vid for BEGIN. – promise this is the last, lol

  31. TOfan says:

    You guys are KILLLLING me here, am DYING to hear Broken but I’ve lasted this long so I might as well keep going with the flow *bites both hands* …. and meant to say a big welcome to Bychance (love your screen name btw, don’t think I’ve ever seen it before!) … loved ever word of your comment.

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