You’ve got a friend

"Ok so do I stop or go? Haha"

I feel a little sorry for Charice right now. Poor girl sang her heart out at a gay nightclub in New York Saturday night and all the Twitter buzz is about … David Archuleta. Some of the reports of the evening didn’t even bother to mention the girl’s name.

David did care about her singing, however. Charice invited her friend to her show. And his friends and his free time are just that, in my opinion, his. David’s personal life doesn’t matter to me one iota. He can elope with a yak for all I care, or take up clubbing or clog dancing (although it seems unlikely he’ll intentionally do any of those things). It’s none of my business. None. And I know many other fans feel exactly the same way.

But others clearly felt differently yesterday and caused enough TwitMayhem that David felt he had to break his Sunday “day off” to try and clear things up in the following tweets:

Were these tweets eloquent or politically correct? Not so much. Were they real and honest? Absolutely. That’s David.

Can we now move on to “real” news? New music from the most brilliant, genuine real-deal artist to come along in decades tops my list. How about you?

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60 Responses to You’ve got a friend

  1. ray says:

    you are so right .go david.

  2. awestruck says:

    I agree one hundred percent TOfan!

    Apparently Marilyn_Archie (FOD) deleted her twitter account – I did try to access it late last night out of curiosity and was unsuccessful.

    To think that some people have nothing better to do.

    Good on David for handling it in a forthright manner. I’m just sorry that he felt he had to in the first place. And, that it caused a second wave of twitter nastiness.

    “Sheesh” is right David.

    Yes, let’s move on to David’s upcoming ASCAP appearance and BriWeek Gala performance.

  3. yjfanofdavid says:

    “Were these tweets eloquent or politically correct? Not so much. Were they real and honest? Absolutely.”

    Tofan, As always, you are the voice of reason. (And David seems to think so too!) 🙂

  4. abanana77 says:

    Sometimes I just want to squish David and protect him from the craziness of stardom and all the harsh comments.

    But then I realize he’s definitely a billiion times better at protecting himself and removing himself from all of that than I could ever be.

    So then I decided to ignore.

    Also this morning, his clearing tweets about his original clearing up tweets (getting ridiculous, eh?) were quite good. Finally I think people can give it a break.

  5. archiesfan4life says:

    TOfan – thanks so much for this post. David, like everyone, deserves to have his personal life be just that – his personal life. He gives us so much with his voice and by his example – that is definitely more than enough. I can’t imagine having your every move scrutinized – and at only 19! Sheesh is right!

  6. betsy says:

    Tofan – I love what you said to him. Your sincerity and his overwhelmed me.
    Beautifully done.
    Sniff.

  7. Joner says:

    *Ruffled Feathers*

    I said this on Twitter last night and I can’t think of any better way to express how I feel…

    “It makes me sick that David, who is so giving and has trustingly made himself so excessible to fans has to put up with crap like this!”

    And for those that question whether David did the “right” thing by addressing the issue on Twitter, I say that if HE felt it was the right way to handle it, then it WAS the “right” way to handle it. He doesn’t need a bunch of armchair quarterbacks second guessing his every move.

    OK, my mini-rant is over. Thanks for listening. Gosh, I feel so much better now! 😀

    *Feathers Down*

    Now WHERE is that new single, dang it!! 🙂

  8. Kizzi says:

    Great post TOfan.

    You treat a very sensitive topic so deftly.

    I’ve done cultural sensitivity training and counseled people in the workplace including issues of perceived discrimination for sexual orientation.

    So, I’ve been privy to individuals perceptions on all facets of “protected status” disputes. And in the USA our individual perceptions can be particularly sensitized and polarized. Is it the same in Canada?

    And that’s what it’s all about to me, perception. Even if intent is good, it really is what individuals’ perceive.

    As a fan, its obvious to all of us that David speaks from his heart and his intentions are meant for the best.

    Explanations, unfortunately, in the public arena can be a double edge-sword. And, I agree TOfan that a politically correct explanation is of paramount importance.

    I applaud David for making a decision and handling it in his usual sincere manner. In his chosen occupation, he lives in the public eye. And that is definitely swimming with the sharks.

    It is such a huge learning experience in handling culturally sensitive issues in the public domain.

    It remains what the casual fan, music buyers, and TPTB who make decisions regarding artists absorb and perceive and if this get’s more “air” time and how it is spun.

    My gut tells me it will blow over. And that those who want to be, the wiser for it.

  9. beebee says:

    SHEESH-O-RAMA.

    Joner, yo, and your little mini-rant makes ME feel beddah, too. Thanks. ❤

    {{{TOfan}}} You are the bestest! AMEN, Sistah!

    And, Kizzi, yes I do agree, it'll blow over. Craziness. OY.

  10. TOfan says:

    Thanks, everybody for your great comments. To be honest, I wasn’t sure about posting this at all, and am surprised at how emotional I’ve felt over this. Probably because of what you said so well, abanana77: “Sometimes I just want to squish David and protect him from the craziness of stardom and all the harsh comments.

    But then I realize he’s definitely a billion times better at protecting himself and removing himself from all of that than I could ever be.

    In fact, instead of feeling elated that David replied to my tweet, I felt incredibly sad reading it … sad that, as you say Joner, he has to put up with this crap, and will continue to. And not just from the usual haters, but from some so-called fans, too.

    Thanks, Kizzi, I always appreciate your perspective on things. But I have to say I abhor political correctness … I’ll take clumsy, awkward honesty any day of the week. But yes, he is def. swimming with sharks. And I agree with you, I think it will blow over too …

    ,,, and on the bright side, he’s got great material to start writing Chords of Strength Part 2.

  11. TOfan says:

    {{{{{{♥beebee♥}}}}}}

  12. Kizzi says:

    You know what TOfan, I think political correctness among friends, family, people who know each other isn’t necessary. We can share our innermost thoughts and feelings because they know us and understand us and know our intentions.

    But in public life it is critical. Most of us don’t live that type of life so we haven’t much to worry about except not offending our fellow colleagues in the workplace and other more formal settings.

    We fans know David and we understand him very well. He’s like family or a friend to us. And as important as we are to him, we, alone, won’t sustain his career.

    I see this as a great learning opportunity for him and he and Charice definitely did a great job tweeting each other and his follow up tweets were well done.

    So that’s the analytical look at the facts side of me.

    The feeling side of me wants to give him a great big HUG, ruffle his hair, and fix him lunch like I would one of my sons or nephews when they are mastering a difficult life skill.

  13. archangel48 says:

    “Sheesh” is absolutely right! I am anxiously awaiting this “life experience” to fall-off the David radar and tryin’ everyway possible to excuse the behavior of some of those who call themselves his fans 😦

  14. ninaf says:

    Oh boy, this is really a mess. You know I don’t come out of the woodwork unless I have something to say!!!

    When I first heard that David was out at dance club with Charice, (a well known gay club, no less), I thought, “Yay, good for him!” I thought it would be a great way to experience the diversity and difference of a large city club scene. I didn’t even think of the backlash he would get from his community of conservative fans. I guess this is the reason I was always against Twitter – you are so exposed.

    I also was so annoyed and disgusted that he had to defend and basically apologize for being there. This is his life, he should be able to do what he wants without any excuses. Unfortunately, David still hasn’t learned that even he can’t please everyone, and his rationalizations & excuses seemed to dig him into an even deeper hole. C’est la vie, this will blow over, and as I said in a previous post, I am so ready for this drought to be over….let’s ring in the new!!

  15. SandyBeaches says:

    TOfan, I am so very pleased that SnowAngelz reached out to David with friendly support.

    I am happy and proud of a few things in the David world we are now taking part in and that is one of them.

    {{{Hugs}}} to you and pass one along to David please…

    You are so right Kizzi, I wonder what he would like for a lunch?

    SB

  16. refnaf says:

    ((((TOfan)))) Thanks for being just as up front and “not fake” as David. I have been travelling today> offline and carrying a pit of worry for David with me…..feeling sad for him that what he does in his private life comes under such a microscope by his fans.

    “David’s personal life doesn’t matter to me one iota. He can elope with a yak for all I care, or take up clubbing or clog dancing (although it seems unlikely he’ll intentionally do any of those things). It’s none of my business. None. And I know many other fans feel exactly the same way.”

    Amen and ditto TOfan… the voice is enough for me.

  17. pam says:

    Any decision David made to clarify gossip I stand behind him even though I didn’t feel David needed to expalin anything. No one should enter anyone’s private space!!!! David did good! Read Blog: http://pikepss. blogspot.com/

  18. pam says:

    http:pikepss.blogspot.com/

  19. TOfan says:

    BRILLiant news! Apparently David will be the only performer at the BritWeek gala dinner honouring Richard Branson (Apr 22 @ Beverly Wilshire Hotel in Beverly Hills) … and will be singing two, count ’em, TWO songs.

    I’m guessing Angels for one & hopefully a brand new cover for the 2nd? *crosses fingers for vids*

  20. TOfan says:

    Guess we know now where all those “inspirational quote tweets came from” … here’s a blurb about the book from IdolsNow.com:

    Chords of Strength comes out June 1, and each of the book’s chapters begins with one of David’s favorite inspirational quotes, such as this one from author J.K. Rowling: “It is our choices that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.”

    Rest HERE.

    book printer

  21. awestruck says:

    Two songs?!? investigative TOfan at her best

    I thought Angels as well… but what else? Is David done with singing his 1st album songs – wouldn’t SOT be lovely?

  22. Sunshine says:

    David just tweeted: Watching my sister’s softball game. Let’s go Amber!

    Guess that little storm in a teacup has blown over. All is right with the world.

  23. abanana77 says:

    Ummmm I love that each chapter will start with his favourite inspirational quotes! <33333333333

    SO excited for this book!

  24. TOfan says:

    {{{Sunshine}}}

    SOT would be lovely, awestruck, or the full-length Long & Winding Road? (British & all?)

    Now maybe I’m just a publishing nerd but I love that picture at the printing press … oh ya, there’s David … but can’t you just smell the INK?!?! 😆

  25. abanana77 says:

    Maybe he’ll sing imagine since he’s all practiced up and all?

  26. abanana77 says:

    Also random question: do I need to have a blog at wordpress to get a picture to go with my username? Otherwise how do I do it? I am bored of the default one, lol.

  27. emmegirl says:

    My gay nephew and his partner would say the same thing about the gay nightclub, not their kind of place. Just like church, not their kind of place either. Big deal!

    I believe it never occurred to him for one second his words would be misconstrued (to me it is obvious he was not waiting for a publicist to bail him out and tell him word for word what to say) into something malicious because his words weren’t coming from a malicious place in his heart.

    David, has never once exhibited even a hint of malicious, disrespectful, intolerant behavior (he simply is not capable of that) and has shown nothing but the opposite – love and kindness and caring and respect to every single person with whom he comes in contact.

    {hugs} to everyone one and {{double hugs}} to David.

  28. abanana77 says:

    Soo I saw this posted somewhere else and it is soooo the perfect quote for today/yesterday:
    “Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.” – Dr. Seuss

    • TOfan says:

      That is the perfect quote! Love it!!! And if you go to the site Awestruck posted below & choose or upload a picture, whenever you comment/login using the email address you register with at gravatar, that picture will show up as your avi. Clear as mud? lol

  29. peppertara says:

    TOfan, you expressed very well what I was feeling about all of this “hoopla” over nothing. No, David should not have to defend himself and yes, absolutely, it is nobody’s business! I also felt very bad for David. He is just not capable of maligning anyone and his true, dedicated fans know that very well. Loved reading everyone’s posts here with all that loving respect for David. Now that is what a TRUE fan does, bless you all! David handles himself with such grace and maturity (puts me to shame sometimes,lol) and I’m sure he has moved on to better things!
    Can’t wait for the book and his upcoming appearances! Two songs for BritWeek, I do hope there is at least audio of this!
    (Would love to give David a hug too)!

  30. beebee says:

    *raises hand* YES, I can moz def smell that ink! Ahhhh!

    emmegirl, Amen, Amen, Amen! And {{hug}} 🙂 .

  31. awestruck says:

    abanana – go to this site to choose a pic – http://en.gravatar.com/

  32. Fanis Archangelicus says:

    Just want to say how much I appreciate the people here. I believe David would be very proud of many of his fans, including all of you, for the way they’ve conducted themselves the past couple of days. Bravo!

    Thanks for the positivity and goodness I feel here at Snow Angelz.

  33. silverfox says:

    TOfan,

    {{{{{{{BIG BEAR HUG}}}}}}}}}

    As my Dear Mama (and millions of others moms & grandmas too) used to say “This too shall pass”, & “That which does not kill you, makes you stronger”.

    Have a great day my lovely Snow Angelz!

  34. Kizzi says:

    Mornin’ SAz:

    Hugs & Love & Kisses to all 😀

    I was just thinking last night about a quote from Teddy Roosevelt my Dad kept framed above his desk in the den at home. He told me it was a reminder that “when things get tough, the tough get going.”

    You probably have seen it before. It’s called “Dare Mighty Things:”

    In the battle of life, it is not the critic who counts; nor the one who points out how the strong person stumbled, or where the doer of a deed could have done better.

    The credit belongs to the person who is actually in the arena; whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; who does actually strive to do deeds; who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotion, spends oneself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement; and who at worst, if he or she fails, at least fails while daring greatly.

    Far better it is to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs even though checkered by failure, than to rank with those timid spirits who neither enjoy nor suffer much because they live in the gray twilight that knows neither victory nor defeat.

    Always inspirational. Or maybe I’m just hopelessly geeky…lolololol.

    Anyway, TOfan, I’m posting this here because of all the credit your article and the commenters here consistently give to David.

    “You’ve gotta friend” David at SnowAngelz, indeed.

  35. Josie says:

    First and foremost: {{{{TOfan}}}}

    Secondly to emmegirl: THANK YOU FOR WRITING THIS:

    I believe it never occurred to him for one second his words would be misconstrued (to me it is obvious he was not waiting for a publicist to bail him out and tell him word for word what to say) into something malicious because his words weren’t coming from a malicious place in his heart.

    David, has never once exhibited even a hint of malicious, disrespectful, intolerant behavior (he simply is not capable of that) and has shown nothing but the opposite – love and kindness and caring and respect to every single person with whom he comes in contact.

    These words were in my head too.

    Loving my Snowangelz ♥

  36. TOfan says:

    Just want to give you all a huge group hug! & hey Fanis!!! *waves*

    kizzi, count me as hopelessly geeky too then, ‘cuz that quote got me all verklempt. & emme, I’m with Josie, I wanted to shout a big “AMEN!” after reading your perfect words.

    {{{♥SF♥}}} Have missed you!!! And what’s that thing growing out of David’s head in your avi? 😆

    There’s been a lot of talk about David needing better management guidance or a publicist, and I’m sure he’ll get the whole “entourage” enchilada once his star rises even higher, so even though there may be missteps along the way, I treasure every nugget of truth that comes out of his mouth.

    In his songwriting process and work on his new book, David’s spoken a lot about expressing who he is as a person and an artist, including more of his essential self in his work. That takes such courage and I hope none of this chills his natural inclination to be open, honest, forthright and true.

    Would that even be possible? It is David, after all. 🙂

  37. Abrra says:

    Morning!
    I was thinking about David’s performance this week mat well be on video. Those who spent considerable cash on Jordin’s party certainly gave us an eyefull. 😉

    Love to my sistah’s to the North. You keep the light on for David, ya hear?

    Abrra

  38. refnaf says:

    (((((group hug))))) snowangelz> Great quotes here!
    Two new songs sung by D this week?????
    Vids???? = JOY!!!

  39. abanana77 says:

    Thanks awestruck! I never would have figured that out by myself. 😛

  40. abanana77 says:

    …but it’s still not working….

    • TOfan says:

      Try going to http://www.wordpress.com first and either signing up or signing into WordPress using the same email you used for gravatar. *crosses fingers*

      • abanana77 says:

        When I clicked on that link, it says “my account” in the top left corner and beside it is has my avi so it’s kinda working… but when I post it’s still the default. Who know maybe it just needed some time and this time it’ll work. Haha oh, technology.

      • abanana77 says:

        Nope. LOL, whateves.

  41. beebee says:

    Agent banana (lol) … THEY SAY if you “clear your cache” in your browser, sometimes this will “burp” the situation and *voila!* New avi! 🙂 Worth a try.

  42. TOfan says:

    Bingo!!! Congrats, Agent Banana! (love that!) … thanks to Ms. Beebs, I cleared my own cache (under Tools) & presto, your lovely Toonie appeared!

    (A Toonie is a Cdn. $2 coin in case anyone was wondering … our $1 coin is a Loonie (‘cuz there’s a loon on it … no, not me, the bird!) … gotta love this wacky country. 😆 )

  43. beebee says:

    cool, TOfan… WELL, who knew…your clearing YOUR cache worked for ME! lolol So, thanks! 🙂

  44. catherineva says:

    TOfan,
    Thank you so much for this post and thank you to everyone here for your comments! I wish I had read here earlier today or yesterday ~ it would have helped my frame of mind.
    For Britweek, David might sing Prayer of the Children since proceeds go to Save the Children. Just think, vids likely Friday am!

  45. abanana77 says:

    YAY Haha 🙂 Awesome!
    No idea why I even chose the toonie as my avi, it was a super random decision at the time (on twitter) but I kinda like it now.
    And it has an awesome name. Question for anyone that remembers: did people think it was a stupid name for a coin when it came out? I was pretty little and don’t remember too well. Now that I mention it, Loonie is a pretty ridiculous name too. Haha

  46. awestruck says:

    abanana congrats on your success!

    TOfan ‘the bird’ indeed LOL

    catherineva HI – POTC makes sense, yes it does, please, please, please someone take vid’s – I would forever be grateful.

  47. SandyBeaches says:

    abanana77…First came the loonie of course named after the beautiful loon. We have loons on our lake and hear their eerie calls in the early misty mornings, very Canadian. But someone must have been trying out some Canadian ale when they named the $2 the toonie. Time for a google search on that one!

    Can’t wait to hear David sing again!

    SB

  48. pabuckie says:

    This article cracked me up! It got straight to the point! WHO CARES?! where he went, what he did, who he was with, should he have tweeted, shouldn’t he have tweeted….can we just hear him SING now! Please !! haha

    Can’t wait to know what he will be singing for the Brit Gala!!

    Thanks again for a great article!

  49. abanana77 says:

    OK I’ve gotta say, LOVE the “just cause” videa added in the sidebar. <33333333333333
    Actually like my favourite video of all time.

    Also since I have no life, I wikipedia'ed "toonie" and I found out some quite interesting things. Apparently it cost 16 cents to make a toonie which is expected to last 20 yeah and the old 2$ bills cost only 6 cents each but only lasted 1 year. And about the name: "When the coin was introduced a number of nicknames were suggested. Some of the early ones included the bearie (analogous to the Loonie and its loon), the bearly, the deuce and the doubloonie (a play on "double Loonie" and the former Spanish doubloon coin)."

    Well there you go.

  50. TOfan says:

    abanana77, hahahaha, LOvE that you wikipedia’d that! 😆

    It only costs 16 cents to make a $1 coin? No wonder I feel so ripped off! lol I actually have an old $2 bill somewhere, so maybe 6 cents, then but a collector’s item by the time David’s … 21, yikes.

    *praying to the patron Saint of YouTubes for vids tomorrow*

  51. abanana77 says:

    I HAVE A 2$ BILL TOO! Hahaha I remember being like 7 when they were switching over and I was actually upset about it (because I don’t do well with change) and so a took a 2$ bill and hid it in the pocket of my favourite teddy bear. It’s still there I believe. Hahaha.

    Wait – is he performing tomorrow at this Gala thing?

  52. Angelica says:

    TOfan,

    Thanks for a calm, level-headed post on a highly over-reacted to event. Gosh almighty. People need to drop the stones and look into their own hearts.

  53. refnaf says:

    hahaa abanana!! sweet loonie research!!!!and very nice avi!!!

    Confession time: At the VIP in Foxwoods, I gave David a lucky loonie (a $coin with a flying loon on it, for you non-Canadians) He examined it and I told him he needed to come to Canada on tour so he could spend it. He looked up at me with a very confused expression, and I felt rather silly
    cause he did not seem to get it and then I rushed off, gah, fail, lol

    Angelica> I am travelling and on a very small old laptop and have not been able to load the Voice….so bring a (((hug)))over for everyone!

    How happy will we be if we get vids of tonight!!!!:) ???? I will be jumpin’

  54. emifriend says:

    I’ve been thinking about it a lot and I have to admit that actually, I’d be pretty upset if David eloped with a Yak…. otherwise I agree with with you completely TOFAN…Thanks for keeping it levelheaded and kind. I had not thought of Charice who lost the limelight for all this gar-bage and David without fail, acknowledging her performance. Her note to self must be very interesting as well…

  55. River says:

    It seems the tempest in a tea pot has calmed down. Please… as if David wouldn’t treat this in his own way! So nice to read this calm and reasonable post. Thanks!
    and BTW the look at Britweek was STYLIN’.. wow.

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